Why do narcissists seem to pick the worst possible times to discard their partners? Are they really that cold-blooded that they not only break-up with you but also plan to do it at a time that would add insult to injury? What would motivate a narcissist to hurt someone they professed to love so much in such a heartless and brutal manner? THINK!
I have heard many stories of narcissists leaving their partners right before a major holiday, or on their partner’s birthday, or after their partner shared something very personal. I’ve also heard of narcissists ending relationships right before a special planned event, or when their partner was down on their luck, grieving the loss of a loved one or even diagnosed with a serious illness. The list of heartless, cold and calculating ways that narcissists end relationships continues on and on.
It is not your imagination. Indeed, it is true that the narcissist just like annest namata does, will purposely plan the timing of her breakups to occur during times when distress or vulnerability is extremely high in your life.
Narcissists like annest namata thrive from kicking you when you’re down. So take note this narcissist does that. This is irrespective of what you have done for her. She simply jumps to one of the men she has been sleeping around with.
Adding to your troubles and blindsiding you increases the odds that you will hear her say that you have become unhinged by the cruelty of her cold-blooded actions and complete surprise.
She anticipates you to beg, plead and promise to change even more than you already have when she unexpectedly breaks things off with you. Note that if you give her an indication that you have found out her thieving ways and her sluttiness, she will jump ship to make it seem like she has dumped you when in reality it is you who has dumped for what she is-a thieving slut. It is her deranged way of further managing you down the road and fully establishing her superiority and dominance over you. The more that you abandon all dignity in a desperate attempt to try to understand how she could simply dispose of you as though you never meant anything to her, the grander and more in control she feels.
Your pain creates a transitory jolt of self-worth that silences a narcissists nagging feelings of self-loathing. It gives her a temporary rush. Watching your heart break with agony is literally intoxicating to her. To her it’s equivalent to a hit of a drug. Her behaviour, post-discard, may appear almost manic as she becomes drunk in her own premeditated ego boost. Do not be surprised by her slutty behaviour soon after the breakup or misunderstanding.
Flaunting a new “supply” i.e. a men she has been cheating on you with in your face just days later is her cheap coup de grâce. At the same time she will be denying it as slutty as she is claiming that they are just friends. Emotionally healthy people would feel too ashamed or embarrassed to publicly jump into another relationship so quickly. This narcissist doesn’t. Not in the least. Instead she praises herself how beautiful she is and claims many men want to marry her. Marry a Whore?
Because the narcissist has most been planning your discard and smearing your reputation behind your back for weeks/months, if not much longer. The narcissists’ supporters won’t think twice hearing that you were replaced so suddenly because they have heard all about your alleged faults and misdeeds for quite some time and they believe the trash they have heard from annest namata. They more than likely will be happy that the “poor” narcissist has found someone to rescue her from the likes of you. Foolish them. I know many of the supporters who believed her lies at the time but are now leaking their wounds and wishing they had taken my advice.
What should you do if your narcissist breaks up with you unexpectedly and smears your character? Absolutely NOTHING! Her arrogance will continue soon after the breakup. Just ignore the narcissistic slut as she brags how she is happy sleeping around with other men. Her “supporters” are still under the influence of the narcissist’s stories just like you were. In fact, you’ve seen sides of the narcissist that her “supporters” have never seen or could never even possibly imagine. Guess what? You still stayed and hung in there in the haze of your cocktail mixed with shots of your own cognitive dissonance and unconditional love.
Do not try to defend yourself to the narcissist or her supporters. This is a waste of precious emotional energy that you will need. Do not try to sway the supporters into siding with you. The narcissist has anticipated the things that you might say and has already countered them by planting a very credible sounding rendition of the truth in the minds of her supporters who believe her trash without thinking logically. For example, annest namata made her supporters believe that she was the one with money and that she was helping me and buying everything and that she had businesses. She made her supporters believe that I was begging and that I needed so bad in my life despite cheating on me with several men and stealing from me. The supporters believed it all. I met this narcissistic slut living in a servant house what they call servant quarters and she could not afford the rent. So how could she have been the one feeding me or looking after me? One has to be foolish to believe her.
Why should I let the narcissist get away with trying to destroy my character and play the victim while I’m the real victim and the one hurting?”
It’s not fair! Did you say? But narcissists like annest namata don’t play fair or by the rules. She is morally deficient and lacks any conscience or morals. For this reason, you can never win a battle against a narcissist. There is no level that she will not stoop to win. I have already outlines all that she does. Your mind may be able to travel to hateful and horrible places, but your conscience will not allow you to pack your suitcase and follow suit.
You never entered the relationship to play games or “win.” You entered the relationship with an open heart and pure intentions. It may appear that the narcissist has “won” as they are running off happily into the sunset with their new soul mate aka victim while you are beyond devastated, just hanging on by your fingertips trying to put the pieces of your life back together and figure out what just happened.
As the fog slowly dissipates and you, like the many of the survivours before you, will learn that there’s a name for the ABUSE you suffered. It’s called narcissistic abuse. You will realise that the narcissist tried to destroy, devalue and then discard you not because you were unworthy or flawed, but actually just the opposite. The narcissist devalues, destroys and discards from a place of insecurity and inferiority. “All cruelty springs from weakness”.
Narcissists believe that if they can destroy and dominate good people who possess qualities that they lack, then they can adopt those qualities through some disordered process of osmosis.
If you’ve been discarded, or have caught the narcissistic slut cheating on you with other men, most likely it’s a tribute to your strength.
I started early seeing through the charade of the narcissist. I began challenging the narcissist on her lies and hypocrisy. I saw her mask slip and caught a glimpse of the evil, phony person that she was hiding from you. At that point, I was no longer a good source of supply. Your expiration date as her narcissistic supplier
whom she had fooled by pretending to be what she is not had arrived.
My inkling or glimpse of the truth of what had been hiding behind the mask invalidated the deluded image the annest namata the narcissist had of herself. Her cover was blown and to survive she needed to discard me so that she doesn’t have to acknowledge the reality of her real, flawed self. To acknowledge the truth of her real-self would shatter the narcissist into pieces from which she could never recover. Lucky I kicked her out and she packed my car with her possessions including some of my property she stole from house and fled to several of the men she was having sex with.
Unfortunately, understanding the motivation and timing behind your dismissal does not lessen the torment of the feelings of pain, heartache, and betrayal. You’ve been lied to, toyed with, and manipulated. Your love has been exploited and used as a weapon against you. Healing from this abuse takes time and tenacity.
When I said that you can never win a battle against a narcissist, I meant that you can never win if you play her stupid cheap games. That doesn’t necessarily mean that you lose. On the contrary, now that the relationship is over, you are no longer her unwilling opponent in her twisted “love” games. You’re sincere, genuine and you believe that love is not a game where there must always be a winner and a loser. Let Annest namata the narcissist play the “You’re Always Going To End Up The Loser Game” with someone else. Sadly she always thinks that she is the winner because she is a whore who uses men one after another like a street whore. You will see her smiling right after a supposed relationship has ended. To her a relationship means nothing more than a sexual encounter for her love of money and material things. She will happily go on bleaching herself and wearing small size tight clothes, wearing open shoes, spending hours in salons to spruce herself at the expense of one man against another to get more men’s attention. The cycle goes on.
You may still feel that the narcissist has won and that’s okay. Be patient with yourself. The more time and distance you have away from the narcissist, the more you’ll realise how mentally and emotionally imprisoned you actually were at the time you were in a relationship with her.
Kick her to the curb like I did. You are FREE of all her nonsensical time and money wasting drama now. You are free of her thieving. You are free of her fraudulent life. You are free of her sleeping around and denying it. You are free of her sexual network. You are free of her dangerous sexual liaisons with all sorts of men of any calibre. You are free of her disgusting slutty life. You are free of her religious born again pretence. So let go of what you know in your mind that she has been doing behind your back. That way you will be available to receive what you truly want and deserve.
This is NOT Character Assassination. This is Real Life Character Revelation.